Not the One (Meditation)

What do you do when you find yourself in a place of loneliness? A place where you once traveled with

So many of the ones you held close to your heart. Now you look around and those familiar places and

Spaces feel empty....

I used to be afraid of being a lone. Mostly bc I didn’t want to confront the parts of me that I silenced

With distractions. I thought that being alone meant being unloved. But in reality, I surrounded myself by

People who struggled to love themselves...somehow thinking that they could love me.

I can’t expect to give something to someone what I don’t have for myself. And I can’t expect to take from

Something that is empty.

We all want love. And we all are deserving of love. Sometimes we try to fulfill our need for love with

External and temporary things. Maybe this is where toxic relationships and situationships are birthed.

I wrote this affirmation for those who are in a process of tearing away. Tearing away from things, and

People that no longer serve you. For those who found the courage to finally choose themselves. But the

Truth is...it hurts. Sometimes the pain is an indicator that healing is occurring.

Play these affirmations when you need a reminder to keep choosing yourself.

I am worth being chosen

I stand firm in my decision to choose myself

I will not go back into old patterns, old behaviors or old situations that are harmful for me

I will protect my peace

It is normal to miss an old relationship. But I won’t go back to what isn’t best for me

I am not afraid of my emotions

I will make space for my heart to feel what it feels without judgement

I will not be afraid to love again

There is no fear in love

I give myself grace as I continue to heal

Setting boundaries are an expression of love. I will exercise this love for myself and others

As I learn from past mistakes, I trust myself to choose healthy people to have access to my life

If my heart breaks again, I trust myself, God, and my community to help me piece it back together

Again

I let go of unrealistic expectations that I’ve had for myself and others

I am free to choose, I am free to love, I am free to move forward